Retired couples often acknowledge the big change retirement brings is that they have more time to spend with each other. Adjusting to retirement, however, can often be different from what they expected and can even have an unexpected impact on their relationship. It can be difficult to adjust to a new situation. The changes can build up frustration, dissatisfaction, and even disappointment.
Children kept in detention centers often develop mental illness and behavioral issues. Studies have shown that they display symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder, depression and anxiety.
Screen time is a struggle for all parents of teens and younger children. It also becomes additive, connecting to the pleasure centers in the brain much like drug or alcohol.
Around the holidays we think of what we are grateful for including the people in life. For some reason, it is easier to think of what's going wrong. Picking just one thing you are grateful for each day helps create a positive. It pulls us out the victim role and into an adult place of appreciation. I ask my clients to exchange something they appreciate about each other every day....
So much of our identity comes from our relationships. If you describe yourself to others you are likely to list your roles in relationships like husband, wife, mother, father, sister, partner, etc. I keep this in mind for myself and my clients:
Consider these words from Dr. Harville Hendrix's book, Getting The Love You Want: "We cannot experience life in its fullness unless we have an intimate relationship with another human being..." If you work on maintaining an intimate relationship with your partner, you will feel more fully alive and whole.
Thanks to Dr. Barbara Fontana for this reminder.
I know that l am experiencing PHSD, post traumatic Harvey disorder. I think most people in the broader Houston area are having stress reactions. I want to share a message that my friend wrote. It replaces images of destruction with images of humanity.
"Memory is a tricky thing; it does not record events exactly as they unfold. Instead, people engage in an array of energy-sparing mental shortcuts. Daniel Kahneman finds that people time-sample their experiences and encode an event according to how they feel at it's peak and at its end..."
I often remind couples to speak to each other as adults. This avoids defense reactions. Even if we approach our partners as in a nurturing way we can sound like we are coming from a parenting role. Whether we speak as a Nurturing Parent or a Critical Parent our partner is likely to respond from a Child prospective...
School has started and teacher conferences are coming soon. If your child is having some difficulty I can help you with parenting issues communicating with your child or the school I also can help your child with communication skills and feelings regarding the school experience...
"It's the Presidential election, and the campaign trail ain't pretty. In fact, it's an emotional time for many. An American Psychological Association 2016 Survey claims that 52% of the general public is experiencing Election Stress - and it doesn't matter if you're a democrat, republican, libertarian or independent..."-Psychology Today