Yes! Coming together in a safe and structured environment with a designated time frame offers a safe place to talk about hurts and fears. Imago Relationship Therapy provides an opportunity for each person to be heard with out the defensive interruptions that frequently happen when discussions turn into fights. Each individual also feels validation and empathy. Through clear dialogue comes understanding.
I meet with individuals for 50 minutes. I've found it is good to work with a couple for 80 minutes. That gives enough time for each partner to express themselves clearly and have some time for coming together.
When a child's behavior changes dramatically, it is time for concern. Kids are experts at hiding their emotions, usually in an effort to protect the adults. Children also carry their caretakers' emotions. They often feel that it's necessary to take care of their parents. Adults don't always identify that something is traumatic for a child because we experience events differently.
A child reacts to a change in the family structure. It is difficult to get the child to express feelings. I usually consult with parents on the language that encourages their child to talk about feelings. Adolescents' behavior is usually more obvious. They can act out or turn inward. Adolescents respond well to individual therapy. I believe teenagers need another adult to confide in. I provide a safe nonjudgmental space. I work with parents on validating their teens.
I usually ask for a 6 week commitment to the process. This is not a requirement but a suggestion. Our behavior takes time to see or feel change. I think that 6 weeks is the minimum time it takes to feel comfort in counseling. Significant change can take longer. With children and adolescents more time is needed to create a trusting relationship with a counselor. I am open to a time period that fits with my clients' schedule.
My experiences over the last 30 years of counseling are part of what helps me relate to your needs. I'm very conscious that your experience is unique to any other. I have learned that it is important to meet you where you are in your process. I do not assume to know the answer. My job is to help you find the answers that work in your life.
I can teach you using INTENTIONAL communication that will keep you focused on your tasks. Being intentional significantly improves your chance of ending your relationship emotionally intact and keep you out of lawyers offices. Using SAFE CONVERSATIONS dialogue you can maintain your compassion and empathy for partner. With intentionality your divorce will leave you and your family healthy and whole. Let's try.